Girl talk: Talking truths of body image and lifestyle

We’ve talked before about how body image in pop culture has changed recently, with more of an emphasis on curvy, bodacious women over impossibly slim ladies. That started a great conversation in our collaborative about what it all might mean for feminism, and for female body issues in general.



We wanted to write another piece on body image and lifestyle choices, because we’ve gotten a lot of feedback from readers about that first article.


Let’s talk some basic truths.


-Most mainstream body images aren’t healthy for most women. You’re better off focusing on how to attain the fittest, healthiest version of the body you’ve been given, rather than trying to work against your biology. If you want to be a bit slimmer, or a bit stronger, that’s perfectly alright, and it’s great to have goals to work toward. On the other hand, some things aren’t going to change, like your height or your bone structure. You should work with a trainer to talk about how you’d like to build on your natural figure to achieve your own ideal image!

-No matter what you want your body to look like, you’re never going to get perfect results relying on the latest shapewear, or specialty clothes. Fad diets and workout videos might be fun for a week or so, but they’re not long-term solutions. If you’re in search of an ideal figure, you should approach everything from the perspective of health and wellness. Start eating consciously, with a focus on a healthier diet that includes more fresh produce and whole grains. You’ll also want to start some sort of regular fitness routine, whether it’s jogging, running, yoga or kickboxing. The key in both departments is to be consistent, so you maintain a steady weight and a constant figure, which you can use to buy complementary clothing. Remember, ladies, the biggest cause of dissatisfaction with body image comes from poorly fitted clothes, or bad fashion decisions! You can change nearly everything about your appearance by suiting clothes to your body.

Always remember, ladies: clothes aren’t your only weapon. Regardless of your own body shape, weight is your most variable feature!

So, when you’re trying to attain your ideal body, keep these things in mind:

-to get anywhere, you’ll have to focus on diet consistently. If you want your clothes to fit right, you have to eat right. Extra weight or muscle loss is always going to shoot you in the foot, so whether you’re trying to stay slim or stay strong, the important thing is to eat a consistent healthy diet that doesn’t result in big fluctuations.

-you should always be realistic about what you want your body to look like. If you’ve been born with wide hips, there’s only so much slimming you’ll be able to do. Hit the gym to make sure there’s no flab dragging you down, but you might want to think about doing squats to emphasize your powerful booty rather than constantly jogging to try to make your basic build change. Don’t try to contradict biology! Work with it to achieve the best possible version of you!

-shapewear is a great way to give yourself some encouragement along the way to your fitness goals, but it’s no substitute for commitment at the gym and on the dinner plate! Whether you’re using a waist trainer to emphasize your hips, or cinching to look your best for that big gala, it’s far more important to work on your actual body rather than to try to just squeeze it into shape! Bring your waist trainer along, but don’t let it be a crutch to skip out on your fitness regimen!


We think having long and short term fitness and body goals is a great way to get motivated and see real change in your self esteem, especially if you’ve struggled with weight, or fashion faux pas. Just make sure you’re being safe and healthy as you strive for your best possible self!